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Dating, Adult, & Porn? How does it all apply to today's dating arena?

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INTRODUCTION TO Dating for an Adult in Wake of Porn

Conversational skills will make you, and lack of them will break you. You may be the homeliest guy on the planet, but if, while dating, you're good with words - and you don't watch adult porn - you can still have some serious game with women. It's not hard to be good with words out dating - just pay attention to what you say and how you say it, be an adult, and never talk about porn.

Adult

Most people that are an adult (by far the vast majority) don't realize it, but your eyes give effect to much of what you say while dating; and, in regards to dating, when it comes to conversation with adult women, your eyes can be the magic words to creating attraction. Your eyes reflect mood, and mood is usually infective. Just ask you're favorite porn star!

Before we go any further, though, test this out for yourself. Dating is a perfect opportunity to act like an adult. Go stand in front of a mirror. Now, as if you're a porn star, pretend to be suddenly angry. Look at your eyes: Do you see how they change - your eyes reflect your anger. Now take notice of your facial expression. This is what adults see on your face when they see you angry. Now attempt to feel sad - your eyes should now reflect sadness. Notice your adult facial expression? This is what adults see when you're sad and you're out dating. What about happy? Cocky? Bored? Serious? Lost? In awe? Confused? Nervous? Confident? Aggressive? Shy? Laid-back?

Of the wide range of human emotions, all can be reflected in your eyes. And, like a porn star, each emotion can be faked by simply focusing on presenting each emotion in your eyes. Dating, the adult emotion's respective facial expression will follow.

Where is this going, porn star? Well, like an adult, keep reading.

You've probably heard the term adult before. Adult represents a person's ability to conceal their emotions during a game of cards, especially when large bets have been wagered. Let's say you're dealt a hand that is a sure winner; and because it is, you want as much money wagered as possible to beat the other porn stars. But if the other adult card players at the table can read your excitement at having such a great hand, they may get scared and either place small bets, or simply fold their cards and drop out. So to keep these adults unaware of your great hand, you hide your excitement with a blank face, and maybe even take it one step further by appearing subtly disappointed. Like a bad dating experience. You're careful not to overdo it, though, because then it might be obvious that you're faking.

In regards to conversation with adult women into porn, we use a poker-face to cloak the true emotions we may be feeling - not with a blank face, but with an entirely different emotion altogether. Do you feel shy? Focus on your eyes and cloak it with confidence. Are you nervous? This is another emotion easily cloaked with an appearance of confidence. In the case of shyness or nervousness, confidence is your adult poker face.

And it's all in the porn.

But simply appearing confident out dating with your eyes isn't enough to create attraction. With your adult eyes you want to tantalize, tease, be playful, flirt, entice, charm. Now get back in front of the porn mirror and think along these lines. It's probably not going to be easy at first. These are emotional mind sets that most adult guys aren't familiar with. Have you known any guys that are great at flirting with adult women? Think about how their eyes reflected playfulness and charm. This is the effect that you want to capture. All you have to do is practice and it will eventually come naturally, just like a porn star.

Humor and a sense of fun are some of the most powerful aphrodisiacs in the world, in regards to adult dating, which is a key point you need to know to realize why appearing playful in your eyes creates attraction in women, even the ones that watch porn.

By using your eyes to entice and charm, you're avoiding the most common facial expressions that women are turned off by - or rather, aren't turned on by. Appearing, adult, dating, porn, too serious, too comical, too tough, too cool, macho - these are appearances typical of the average guy that turn off most women. Appearing "playful" sounds like a childish term, but when it comes to attracting women it can be the deadliest weapon in your arsenal. To women, playfulness says a lot about you. You're an adult. You're confident while dating. You're at ease around porn. Obviously you're used to being successful with women because otherwise you wouldn't have such a playful approach to the first date. You're a flirt. You're a porn star. . .

Pay attention to the effect you're having. Your eyes are such a powerful tool, that it only takes seconds to initiate an attraction. In the end, playful eye contact, when used in the right amounts (not too little and not too much) can seriously mess women up on a date.

IN ADDITION TO ADULT DATING AND PORN WATCHING...

"Once you've been an adult, it's that much easier to create the porn star effect that you're after. Notice that we used the word "dating" in the above paragraph? We use the word "dating" to represent the other person's expectations of a social get together. This is what he or she expects. And because they expect it, now it's that much easier to give it to them."

- The Seven Elements of Dating

When you, an adult who doesn't watch porn, flirt with women you're dating, not only do you demonstrate confidence and playfulness (a very effective combination on the first date), but you also give off the impression that you're ACCUSTOMED to flirting with women, which makes you a challenge in a way. When you're at ease around an adult, her imagination tells her that: a) You're at ease around any other adult, which makes you a product probably in "demand". b) You're able to take women on a first date, probably because you're used to being pursued by women. This all adds up to make you an intriguing person and someone worth getting to know more about. Maybe you can film a porn movie together?

THE SECRET OF ADULT SMALL TALK WHILE DATING

Once you've broken the ice with an effective opening, you can pretty much say whatever you want, as long as you remember some simple porn guidelines:

1) Listen attentively to what she has to say - not only are you giving her the impression that she can "talk to you about anything" (a rare trait in men that many women are attracted too), but you're also picking up on key phrases that she's using, which makes it easy to keep the conversation going.

ADULT

2) As you're listening attentively, like an adult and picking up on key phrases that she's using, look for opportunities to sprinkle in some background information about yourself. Not much, just enough to let her know that you're not a serial killer and that you have friends.

DATING

In this first dating conversation, here's an excellent opportunity to plant the seeds of attraction, and you do this by playing off her imagination (See "Enigma", Chapter 1, The Seven Elements of Charisma). If you can somehow relate to anything she's saying, as soon as she pauses for a breath, let her know that you can relate, but don't make a big deal about it. Then, rather than change the subject, go back in time twenty seconds and pick up the conversation before you had cut in.

PORN

By not making a big deal out of porn and the fact that the two of you share something in common, you immediately put her mind to work. Suddenly she's not sure what you're motives are. In general, when a woman is in conversation with a guy she's never met, in the back of her mind she's looking for signs that the guy is somehow interested in her. Guys who are obviously interested are very predictable, with little challenge or mystery to them whatsoever.

So here's an opportunity to present yourself as a dating challenge - using the element of porn, you're goal is to tap into her imagination and make her wonder whether you're interested or not (Psychologically, this works at almost all stages of the adult dating game, and a very popular tactic women use on men). If you're interested in dating, you're interested in dating. If you're not interested in porn, you're not interested in porn. But if she's not sure, you, an adult, suddenly present yourself as a challenge, which (worth repeating a thousand times over) women are known to be attracted to, and also porn.

Generally when you tell a woman that the two of you have something in common, nine times out of ten it has the same effect as a pick up line - she thinks that you're trying to con her and it blows up in your face. Don't tell her you have something in common - show her by acting like you can relate to what she's saying. She'll realize on her own that the two of you have something in common and the effect is a hundred times greater.

What are small talk killers on a date? Pay attention - what follows are common mistakes many adult guys make when having a conversation with a women for the first time:

1) Don't express interest in her sexually (in any way), be it with your eyes, posture, or words.

2) Don't give her the third degree: In other words, avoid firing off questions, one after the other.

3) Don't tell her too much about yourself while dating (for example, your adult life story), because: a) You may come across as if you're trying to impress her with words. b) You may come across as if you "talk too much". c) She may think that you're full of yourself. d) You don't leave anything to her imagination. e) You watch too much porn.

4) Don't come across as cocky, too-cool, macho, or chauvinistic. On the flip side, don't come across as "too nice".

Unless she's under the effects of alcohol, a woman's walls are usually up when meeting or being approached by an adult guy she's never met before, except for maybe in a movie about pornography. And some women's walls are up thicker than others. Your goal in the early stages of the conversation process is to tear down her walls and make her feel at ease in your presence. You can easily do this by assuming an "innocent" role. In your mind you should have no notion of bedding her, only of making a new friend. In fact, the moment you talk to a woman with absolutely no thoughts of sex, the pressure is off and you can talk to her as if you would talk to anyone else. So don't stare at her (keep eye contact, just don't overdo it), and don't lick your lips!

The secret of small talk for an adult is to get her to open up to you, at the same time dropping in bits and pieces about yourself so that she will feel familiar with you and more at ease out dating. One of the most effective means to small talk on a date is to empathize and "be there" with her. Empathic listening, in fact, is considered to be emotionally seductive because a woman thinks that you share her feelings as an adult: pain, fear, anger, elation. As you listen to her, be truly attentive, and don't jump in immediately with something to say in response, as if you're her opponent in a porn contest. Too many guys think they need to be impressive dating with words, when actually to be truly impressive dating these guys really need to just shut-up and listen to the sounds of pornography.

There are no 'rules' to conversation with an adult. There are simply 'points'. Follow the points of porn as we've outlined them above and you'll eventually go far dating. As anything else in this dating book, you're not going to be a professional the first time you walk up to the plate to be a porn star. But you now know what the dating game is about. You're facing an adult known for his porn, his dating, and his adult status. Many adults would say, how is this possible when for so many guys conversation is hard? The fact is, and a point made many times throughout this dating book when talking about women and porn, it's the imagination at work. Most adult men deceive themselves, thinking that there's something grand to an effective conversation with a woman while dating. And with these thoughts, come illusions of self-doubt, that to have an effective conversation with an adult woman these guys themselves have to be grand, like porn stars. Read and re-read this chapter.